Yahoo! Personals. Orig "In my own words" self-description was probably written in 2003.

April 2005 rewrite:
Title/Headline: "It's always been a Matter of Trust"
About Me
Name: alistener123456
Gender: Man seeking a Woman

The headline, for those who missed the reference, is from Billy Joel, an old favorite of mine.

Alternate headline: "One Good Man" song title by Janis Joplin, the lyrics to which are easily findable on Google. No wait I meant Yahoo!. Yes, Yahoo!. That's what I meant.

Saying personal things publicly always struck me as some sort of contradiction. Well, I suppose that I can find some apparent contradictions about myself that I like: I like quietness and contemplation, yet I like music (even loud sometimes) both live and recorded. I may seem adventurous, as an ex-paratrooper, but I'm really more of a nerd deep down. I feel a strong sense of my own masculinity, yet I like soft things and nonviolent movies.

I really don't know what my friends would say about me but I can imagine. The majority of my friends, and best friends, in my life have been female. I imagine they would start with shy, passive and sensitive, then they would emphasize intuitive, metaphorical and complex (but able to be accessible when he wants to be), and end with polite, caring and warm.

I did get one telling comment from an intimate friend. She said, "You have a nice touch," referring to the sense, when I touched her that way.

I believe that if you can be you and I can be me, we'll get along ok.

[Begin Rebel/Idealist Mode]

Allow me a moment to interrupt myself and say that with regard to what Yahoo! calls the Sensible Love Style, I can fit that label's description only if the word "lifetime" is removed. You see, I believe that a relationship consists of qualities, not quantities. Since duration is a quantity, to say any duration is superior to any other merely negates the quality of the relationship.

"If a person had time enough, he could love all of that majority who are decent and just."

Let me be clear and say that whether your goal is short or long term, I'm compatible with it.

Whether this makes me "free-spirited" or not I haven't a clue. What I do know is that that term has been coming up a lot on various personality profiles recently.

[End Rebel/Idealist Mode]

The adolescent attribute of imagining and seeking the perfect or "ideal" woman I've long since abandoned realizing that variety is actually far more interesting and even exciting than the impossible search. If that search hasn't gotten boring to you by age 20, think it through again. (Yes, I have more to back up that opinion.)

As an adult I have discovered that there is more variety than the imagination can contemplate. I find that staying young involves a process of discarding pre-conceived notions and unlearning old falsehoods. I am ready for a new experience.

If any of this seems appealing I'd love to hear from you.